The parents she deserves

I cannot give my daughter the parents she deserves.

I have struggled for years to give her that. I spent a lot of energy attempting to give her that.

I can love her like a fierce momma bear but I cannot make her father come to the table.

I can consciously refuse to engage in behavior that will damage her relationship with her father but I cannot make her father do the same.

Our daughter is a unique loving quirky beautiful young woman. She is magical.

She has been torn apart by a parent that no problem in making negative statements about her mother to her.

Hopefully, these acts do not destroy her soul.

Hopefully, when she wakes to this she is able to cope with the damage he has done and is able to recover from it.

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