Mumma Struggles

I do not answer if I know AP is triggered because nothing good ever comes from it. Projection, I have seen a number of alienators accuse the target parent of alienation. You are not alone. Years ago, my ex gave me a pamphlet on alienation on which he had highlighted the actions he was accusing me of participating. I knew I was not participating in alienation activities. I was very conscious of not letting Kiddo know just how bad the relationship between me and father is. He was abusive and I was exit safety planning with a counselor when they were a baby when AP came home and announced he was leaving. I felt like I won the lottery and avoided a huge physical attack I felt he was building up to. In the years since I have learned how to manage the conflict and Kiddo had no conscious memory of any of the abuse. All communication with any possibility of conflict has been via writing for a very long time. I have always been super conscious of my words and body lang...

I KNOW I am my child's answer. I have never doubted this. ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJjJNKpekw0 ) I have sought assistance to help me help my child with their challenges for many years. We have hit a lot of brick walls many times because of resistance being created by the AP. Kiddo' challenges are at least partially created by APs alienating behavior. How do I get all of the "professionals" that are now enabling the continued escalation of alienation by the AP to get the hell out of the way of the over a decade of deep attachment roots I fostered with kiddo? Kiddo would love (and tried for at least five years) with the AP while maintaining our attachment. Kiddo feels forced to choose one or the other. Kiddo sat many times sobbing in my arms saying they needed to choose. They could not love both. They have been told they cannot love both parents. [I tried for the first ten years of kiddos life to get AP to engage in kiddos life and then realized I was ...