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I am my child's answer...

I KNOW I am my child's answer. I have never doubted this. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJjJNKpekw0) I have sought assistance to help me help my child with their challenges for many years. We have hit a lot of brick walls many times because of resistance being created by the AP. Kiddo' challenges are at least partially created by APs alienating behavior. How do I get all of the "professionals" that are now enabling the continued escalation of alienation by the AP to get the hell out of the way of the over a decade of deep attachment roots I fostered with kiddo? Kiddo would love (and tried for at least five years) with the AP while maintaining our attachment. Kiddo feels forced to choose one or the other. Kiddo sat many times sobbing in my arms saying they needed to choose. They could not love both. They have been told they cannot love both parents. [I tried for the first ten years of kiddos life to get AP to engage in kiddos life and then realized I was spinning my wheels and he would never engage simply because he should. From that point on I started putting that energy instead of continuing to waste that energy put it into more putting into kiddo and myself. It feels like he saw that shift in me and escalated his alienation then.] This is killing them. Kiddo has been having pervasive suicidal thoughts for nearly five years. AP has blocked appropriate treatment. Kiddo is holding on to a tiny thread of themselves and I worry about how long they can continue to do so. APs only solution is I am abusive and need to be eliminated from kiddos life.

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